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a spontaneous rant
First up, this rant is not aimed at anyone who I know reads my blog. You are all not guilty of this annoyance, so relax.
Ahem.
I irritates me to no end when I am expect to carry an entire conversation. Particularly when the conversation was started by the person I'm talking with. This applies to any form of communication: email, online chat, phone conversations, face-to-face speaking, what have you.
Yes, I readily admit that I love talking--if I like the person and feel comfortable. However, at some point I'm going to stop. Either because I asked a question and am waiting for an answer, or because it's a natural pause in the conversation.
This is the cue to speak, people. It is now your turn. If you don't say a word, or give monosyllabic answers, or act bored and stare around the room, then I'm going to have to conclude you do not care about our conversation. In which case I will give you the look you see in my chibi icon self up there, wonder why the hell you started the conversation in the first place, and leave you to find someone else who wants to talk with me.
That being said, no, I do not have to fill every single moment with dialogue. I enjoy easy silence. Aye, but there's the rub. Easy silence.
I hate hate HATE being made to feel like a stereotypical Victorian wife yammering on about nothing to her husband while he reads the newspaper and ignores her completely. That is disrespectful and very rude. Hold your own end in a conversation. If not by word count, then by the quality of what you say, or at least using interested body language.
And don't ignore my questions. I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to know the answer. If you don't want or can't answer, then tell me so. I will respect your wishes and move on. If you do not let me know you can't or won't answer, then I am forced to conclude you do not respect me or my opinion at all. Being brushed off is one of the most insulting things that a person can do to me personally. I will NOT take it lightly.
/spontaneous rant
This is the cue to speak, people. It is now your turn. If you don't say a word, or give monosyllabic answers, or act bored and stare around the room, then I'm going to have to conclude you do not care about our conversation. In which case I will give you the look you see in my chibi icon self up there, wonder why the hell you started the conversation in the first place, and leave you to find someone else who wants to talk with me.
That being said, no, I do not have to fill every single moment with dialogue. I enjoy easy silence. Aye, but there's the rub. Easy silence.
I hate hate HATE being made to feel like a stereotypical Victorian wife yammering on about nothing to her husband while he reads the newspaper and ignores her completely. That is disrespectful and very rude. Hold your own end in a conversation. If not by word count, then by the quality of what you say, or at least using interested body language.
And don't ignore my questions. I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to know the answer. If you don't want or can't answer, then tell me so. I will respect your wishes and move on. If you do not let me know you can't or won't answer, then I am forced to conclude you do not respect me or my opinion at all. Being brushed off is one of the most insulting things that a person can do to me personally. I will NOT take it lightly.
/spontaneous rant